Thursday, June 22, 2017

The Sin of Comparison

They say confession is good for the soul, but lately I feel that's all I do.  Whether I am confessing my frustration on the job or my envy of what others have, I find that a negative attitude is more likely to occur when I compare myself with others. Pride and envy arrive as uninvited guests to my pity party and stay as long as I allow them to. Fortunately, though, I have learned to disarm them by counting my blessings and thanking God for his favor and provision.

Pride is an ugly thing and comparison is the manifestation of a prideful heart.  I am reminded of the parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector in Luke 18:9-14. Sadly I am prone to act more like the Pharisee when it comes to my attitude toward others. Who am I to judge? But aren't we all guilty of comparing ourselves with and judging others from time to time?  That doesn't make it right.

The happiest people I know are those who have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. (See Philippians 4:11-13.)  When I remember to trust the God who knows me best, loves me most, and gives me all I need, then I am content. But when I begin comparing myself to others, judging them against my standards rather than his love for them, that's when I get into trouble.

What if instead of comparing ourselves with others, we begin praying for and treating them as we'd have them do for us? At the end of the day it doesn't matter what others have or who they are, but rather who we all are in Christ.

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Thursday, June 8, 2017

The Wonder of Waiting

If you are like me, you have probably done a whole lot of waiting in life--waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right to come along, waiting for a big fat check in the mail, or waiting for a dream job that you not only love but that actually pays the bills and leaves you enough surplus for a rainy day. Perhaps you are waiting for the sun to come out and chase away the clouds of despair over a wayward child, a broken heart, or an empty chair formerly occupied by a loved one.

Waiting is one of the most difficult things we will do in life, even if we are women and men of faith. But if we learn to master the art of waiting -- of waiting on God, seeking His will above our own, and resting in His plans and purpose for our lives -- we will look back and see that whatever we had hoped for was certainly worth the wait. You see, God has a way of doing some pretty wonderful things when we wait on Him to work out things in our behalf. That is not to say that we are to just sit and wait -- sometimes we need to step out in faith and actively participate in what He is doing. But I have learned that when a situation does not resolve itself the way I think it should it is best to step back, pray, and give God permission to do His will, even if it means I don't get my own way.

Lately I have been praying about employment and the possibility of relocating to another city. I have mailed resumes, networked with friends and potential employers, and made my list of pros and cons. At no time have I felt apprehensive that moving would be wrong, but neither has God opened doors to indicate that moving would be the right thing to do. Rather He has opened our hearts -- my daughter's and mine -- and granted us wisdom to consider what is best in the long run and the impact a move would have on our family, our church, and our financial well-being. I may not have yet received a job offer, but I have peace knowing that we are where God wants us to be and that in His time, He will provide the job I am meant to have.

God has never failed to give me His best when I have surrendered my plans and desires to His perfect will. Sometimes God has allowed me to fail miserably, fall flat on my face, suffer a broken heart, and experience financial reversal. But God has also been faithful to pick me up, love me in spite of my foolish ways, supply all my needs, and do immeasurably more than I could ask or imagine.

God has surrendered me with visible reminders that He always has my best interests at heart and that He will give me His very best if I wait patiently for Him to work all things together for my good. My husband, children, current job, and even my sweet cat are proof of that!

Waiting for God to do wonders,
Dee Dee

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