Monday, December 4, 2017

All Aboard!

As I consumed the last of the Thanksgiving leftovers, the thought occurred to me that Christmas is coming like a freight train this year and I'd best hop on board lest it run me over. It seems all of life is like that lately -- the days, weeks, months, and years are passing far too quickly!  I have given up rebelling against the clock. There is no stopping it. But I am determined not to be ruled by an earthly timetable or any preconceived notion of how I think my life should play out.  "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11, NIV).

As I anticipate the coming new year, I resolve to live then as I do now -- in full surrender to the Lord and his will for my life. That will require not only determination but the discipline to meet with him daily, read his Word, and pray for his will to be done in my life. In the past few decades I have learned to view life -- the good and the messy parts -- as an adventure and to look for the lessons and opportunities in every difficulty I face. Has it been easy? Of course not!

A financial reversal due to a significant job loss in 2012-2013 wasn't something our family expected, yet God used that season of lack to teach us to be better stewards of our resources.  Relocation wasn't on our radar in 2014 but clearly God had blessings in store that we would not have experienced otherwise.  A diagnosis of melanoma and resulting skin cancer surgery was not something I expected to have to deal with in 2017, but it was something God allowed to deepen my prayer life, heighten my sensitivity to the sickness and suffering of others, and to encourage others and myself to take care of our fearfully and wonderfully made bodies.

It isn't human nature to give up control of our lives, but I believe that by allowing God to have his way with us we can rest securely in his promises and know that he will do far greater things than we can ask or imagine. The joy of making the journey with God will surely outweigh the troubles we encounter along the way.  All aboard!

Copyright © 2017 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Thursday, November 16, 2017

Social Media Separation Anxiety

Recently I found myself on Facebook posting a status update (with photo) and realized that it was insignificant to anyone but me.  Yet I felt compelled to share the post, though I cannot tell you why.

There have been many articles written about how Facebook is addictive. It is true. Facebook is addictive, especially for an approval addict like me. I absolutely love it when people like or comment on my posts!

Like many of you, I'm a multitasker.  But is it really necessary to check Facebook while watching  TV with the family, enjoying lunch by a beautiful river, or going to the bathroom? 

For the past six days I have stayed off Facebook, except for momentary searches related to my job or to check on causes important to me. I have removed the app from all of my mobile devices since I find it extremely difficult to set my phone down or resist the urge to check for notifications twenty times a day. The compulsion to check my Facebook is one of the greatest temptations I face.

I have tried to figure out why I have such social media separation anxiety.  After all, don't I need Facebook or other social media to keep in touch with friends and relatives who are scattered across the continental U.S.?  How will I share spiritual encouragement or helpful information about veganism, health, and environmental awareness?  What about celebrating the birthdays and anniversaries of those I care about or posting pictures and sharing good news of my children's accomplishments?  And last, but not least, how will I ever manage to attract readers to our blogs (mine and Joy's) if I don't share the post links on social media?  How can one market anything these days without social media?

Just a few minutes ago I logged back onto Facebook just to see if anything has changed. Did I really think it would?  I'm still seeing the same old news (and none of it good) from the same old sources. And while I enjoy seeing pictures of family and friends, somehow it's just not the same as keeping in touch via more traditional methods like birthday cards and face-to-face visits. After all, who doesn't love receiving a handwritten note or sipping a cup of coffee with a friend?

Because of all the negativity on Facebook I just don't think it is a healthy place for me to be right now. I need to realign my priorities, find the balance that is missing from my life, and reconnect on a more personal level with those closest to me. That's not to say that I won't pop in for a Facebook visit from time to time to check in with friends from back home -- I still care about you too!  But at least through the holidays I plan on devoting more of my time to personal contact with those around me and enjoying the holidays with my eyes on my blessings instead of everyone else's.

Those closest to me know how to reach me if needed, and for those who don't have my contact info, Facebook Messenger is still an option.

I pray you will unplug, count your blessings this Thanksgiving (and every day), and enjoy the holidays!

Dee Dee

Copyright © 2017 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Sunday, October 22, 2017

Something I Heard In Church

I have heard a lot of sermons in my lifetime -- well over 2,000 by conservative estimates. Some of them have put me to sleep, quite frankly. Others have had a profound impact, often as a result of one thought-provoking statement.

In one of his sermons Dr. Ernie Frey once defined worship this way:  "Worship is living a God-saturated life."  Wow! That covers so much more than the songs we sing or the prayers we pray, doesn't it? It covers EVERY aspect of life, from our relationships and job performance to the way we handle our finances and entertain ourselves.

This morning I heard something equally profound in Pastor Mike's sermon:  "Everything we do is an eternal thank you to God." Let that sink in a minute. How can the way we treat others be a "thank you" if we are irritable, judgmental, or hateful? Is it possible for our lives to be a "thank you" if we are walking in habitual sin, cheating our employers on the job, or giving less than our best to our families?

Our sin nature and the world we live in make it humanly impossible to live in such a way that others would characterize our lives by the words "worship" and "thank you." But by the grace of God, as we grow in our knowledge of his Word and surrender our lives to the leading of his Holy Spirit, I believe that we absolutely can learn to "give thanks in all circumstances" (1 Thessalonians 5:18). The more we learn about God, the more we will come to love him and understand the magnitude of his great love for us. It will become easier to thank him -- for our blessings as well as our difficulties, knowing that ultimately he will work all things together for our good (Romans 8:28).

For me, the key to living a life of worship is a thankful heart. The two are inseparable. One who is thankful will worship the God who has blessed him, and the one who worships God will never run out of reasons to thank him.

Copyright © 2017 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Skin Cancer Reality Check

Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. --  (1 Corinthians 6:19-20, NIV)
For the past year and a half I have done everything in my power to take care of my body, "fearfully and wonderfully made" by my loving heavenly Father (Psalm 139:14). I have eaten healthy, exercised often, and taken precautions when working or playing in the sun. However, to my detriment I have been slow to establish a relationship with a local dermatologist in the three years we have lived in Virginia, despite knowing that I needed to schedule a skin exam to follow up on some suspicious moles on my face.

This summer, nearly four years after my last skin exam, I made an appointment for a full body skin check up. The spots on my face about which I was most concerned turned out to be nothing.  However the spot I dismissed as nothing was one which the dermatologist felt should be biopsied. One week later I received a sobering diagnosis: lentigo maligna, a form of melanoma caused by sun damage. The treatment: Mohs surgery.  The prognosis:  good, because we caught it early!

Because my cancer is a melanoma the preferred treatment is "slow Mohs," a multi-day series of surgeries for removing cancerous tissue, and culminating, if needed, with reconstructive surgery by a plastic surgeon. So far this week I have had two surgeries to remove cancerous tissue. During the first procedure the surgeon removed a quarter-size section of tissue from my cheek. The pathology test came back positive, requiring a second surgery to remove additional tissue the following day.  A third appointment has been scheduled for the purpose of examining the surgery site and bandaging it in preparation for repair of the cheek defect by a plastic surgeon if no further cancer is found.  UPDATE:  As of 10/4/17, all margins are clear and plastic surgery is scheduled for 10/5!

The pictures I have posted below are not graphic but they represent a progression of diagnosis and treatment so far.  Honestly I have no idea what the wound beneath my bandage looks like, but having looked at many images on the Internet I can only imagine that my wound is not pretty.  I've seen pictures of the reconstructive surgery and scars associated with this type of cancer, and I will spare you mine. They say "time heals all wounds" and I know that in time God will heal mine. It could take 6 to 12 months, but I know that the scar will fade over time and life will go on.

So why am I telling you all this? Because I care about you.  Because most of you are like me.  You grew up in a time when we opted for baby oil instead of sunscreen, tanned skin was considered the picture of health, and sunburns, like scraped knees, were common childhood occurrences, and we never thought a thing of it. What we didn't know then can, and probably will, hurt at least some of us. Most importantly, I'm sharing my journey with you because I believe God has allowed this trial in my life to raise awareness of something that can be prevented in yours. Mine is not the face of some stranger you've never seen before.    What happened to me can happen to you.

If you have a suspicious spot on your skin, don't be afraid to have it checked out.  Even a melanoma, if caught early, is treatable. If left untreated, it can be fatal.  I was fortunate that mine was caught early. I am glad I finally listened to that nagging voice in my head saying, "Now! Now is the time to check it out!" If even one person sees a dermatologist for a skin exam, then my journey will have been worth it.  Consider me your nag -- honor God with your body and love yourself enough to get a skin check up, even if you don't think there is anything to be worried about!

I am thankful for the doctors and medical staff attending me through this skin cancer journey. I trust God will use them to accomplish my healing. If you have a health issue, please don't ignore it. Sometimes faith requires that we seek healing and treatment through medical providers. Your health is one of God's greatest gifts to you, and His grace is sufficient for you even as it is for me.

To all who have prayed me through this adventure, know that your prayers have carried me. God's peace is proof that your prayers are working. Thank you for your fervent prayers.

Mole on cheek near corner of eye.  Looks like a harmless "age spot," right?
Lentigo maligna -- diagnosed a few days after the biopsy
Last good photo taken about two weeks before Slow Mohs
Day 1 Post Op -- after removal of a quarter size section of tissue

Day 2 Post Op -- after removal of additional tissue and prior to reconstruction
Morning after reconstruction and the first time I saw what was beneath the bandage.  
Bottom line:  All this could possibly have been avoided had I gone to the dermatologist for a skin exam at the first sign of trouble. I am blessed.  We caught it early, before the melanoma became invasive and potentially life-threatening. The stitches which run from the corner of my eye (dangerously close) to the middle of my cheek will leave a scar. The scar will fade over time and, with my glasses in place, may be hardly noticeable. The experience of all this, however, will remain with me and hopefully will heighten awareness and prompt those who know me to pay attention to the warning signs and take appropriate action.

3 months post-op, selfie mode, making progress!

Copyright © 2017 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Friday, September 1, 2017

So Much On My Mind

Hurricane Harvey, the catastrophic storm that dumped unprecedented, historic rainfall on Texas and neighboring states, is finally beginning to fizzle out, but not without causing widespread devastation and mass destruction. I can't fathom being a victim of that storm, being uprooted and losing everything as so many have. The question of how to help is overwhelming because the need is so great and the manpower so limited to distribute items necessary for survival. Prayer is the best I can do right now, and it seems so insufficient. My prayer is not only that those who survived will recover, but that they will come to know the God who sees and experience the peace of His presence through the volunteers, rescue workers, and relief organizations that are working to get them all to a better place.

This morning I had to drop my car off at the garage to have a water pump replaced, another unanticipated expense, but no doubt a blessing in disguise. Even though I question it at times, God's timing is never off, and I trust there is a reason why this repair is necessary at this particular time. With a hurricane churning in the Atlantic, taking a path that could jeopardize the east coast, perhaps He knows that we are going to need a mechanically sound car that will safely get us from point A to point B, in the event an evacuation becomes necessary. I am thankful that God my Provider has already supplied the funds to replace the water pump and prepare for any storm that may be headed our way.

Recently I was diagnosed with a skin cancer on my face, a non-invasive melanoma that we were fortunate to catch early. Caught a little off-guard by the diagnosis, I am now preparing for a consultation with the surgeon who will be removing the cancer. How extensive the surgery will be remains to be seen, but I trust that God my Healer, the One who has fearfully and wonderfully made me, will bring me through this. "I know whom I have believed, and am persuaded that He is able to keep that which I've committed unto Him against that day." I am not afraid, but I am concerned for family and friends who, as I did, will put off a skin checkup because they consider the appearance of a new spot as "no big deal." Friends, get a skin checkup!  Don't take a chance on your health.

Despite all that is on my mind, this one thing I know:  God is bigger than any problem I will ever face. Bigger than any storm, any health scare, or any financial crisis. Bigger than the state of Texas, He is the creator of the universe and the ruler of all creation. He is big enough to calm the storms in all our lives if we will invite Him in to do His work in our hearts.

God never promised us an easy life. He never promised us that our days would be trouble-free. As long as we live on this earth there will be storms and cancer and broken things. But there is coming a day when "the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away" (Revelation 21:3-4, NIV).

This promise is for those who know God and have received the free gift of salvation through Jesus Christ. This promise is the hope of every believer.  If you have not taken that step of faith, confessed your sin, and acknowledged your need of salvation through Jesus, I pray you will surrender your heart today. Only then will you know the peace that passes all understanding and find strength to stand in your storm.

Copyright © 2017 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Wednesday, August 23, 2017


Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ (Colossians 3:23-24, ESV).

I have a great job. In fact, I am often heard to say that my job is a joy. Truly it is. But sometimes distractions and disruptions cause me to become unfocused and unfruitful and make me feel unfaithful to the God I serve. When that happens I tend to engage in self-condemnation, throw up my hands, and call it a day.

Do you ever feel that way? As though you have delivered less than your best and ultimately failed God? It is easy to fall into a defeated mindset when we are unfocused and unfruitful, but we don't have to remain defeated. God doesn't want us to beat ourselves up over our humanness or our shortcomings (Romans 8:1). He knows how feeble and prone to unfaithfulness we can be. But He is merciful and forgiving when we confess our sins and failures (1 John 1:9), and even when we are unfaithful, He is faithful (2 Timothy 2:13)!

God calls us to be fruitful and work in a manner which will bring Him glory, but He also knows that we will face obstacles and trials that will hinder us from time to time. When that happens and we are tempted to throw in the towel, may we lift our weary hearts to the God who sees, knows, and understands us, trusting in Him to forgive our failures and restore us to fruitfulness.

Copyright © 2017 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Sunday, August 13, 2017

On Charlottesville

How profoundly saddened I am by the events that took place in Charlottesville, Virginia, on Saturday, August 12! To see fellow humans violently attacking each other -- even to the point of death -- sickens me. But it does not surprise me. God told us there would be days like this.
But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people (2 Timothy 3:1-5, NIV).
This is not the America I grew up in. Whatever decency and innocence existed have been crucified on the altar of greed, selfishness, and disregard for the moral and spiritual principles on which our nation was founded. We have lowered our standards so much that it will be impossible for us to recover our greatness. We are lost, and without the assurance that Jesus is coming to take us to heaven where injustice, evil, and greed will be forever gone, there is no hope.

There is a part of me that wants to lock the door, shutter the windows, and live out the rest of my days in the peaceful surroundings of my home. But there is still a war to be fought and won -- not for the right to eat bacon or to preserve the lives of animals, not for the right to bear arms or the supremacy of any given race -- but the fight to win souls for Christ. We must be in the world but not of it (1 John 2:15-17), hearers of the Word and not doers only (James 1:22), and holy as God is holy (1 Peter 1:16). But how?

Micah 6:8, AMP, tells us:  "He has told you, O man, what is good; And what does the Lord require of you except to be just, and to love [and to diligently practice] kindness (compassion), and to walk humbly with your God [setting aside any overblown sense of importance or self-righteousness]?" The problem with humanity is that we have lost sight of, or in many cases totally disregarded, His Word. We are so caught up in doing our own thing -- or in fighting battles based on impulse rather than in fervent prayer -- that we have lost sight of God's will and His ways. God never intended for man to resort to violence to solve conflict or right injustice.

Mine is not the only heart grieving and broken. So is the heart of our holy and righteous God who created man in His own image. Only by repenting of our sins and crying out to the One who able to save us and set our feet on the solid Rock, will we ever be able to regain what we have lost -- faith in God and the belief that there is still good in this great land of ours.

Copyright © 2017 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Thursday, August 3, 2017

Every Little Bit Helps

We want you to know, brothers, about the grace of God that has been given among the churches of Macedonia, for in a severe test of affliction, their abundance of joy and their extreme poverty have overflowed in a wealth of generosity on their part. For they gave according to their means, as I can testify, and beyond their means, of their own accord, begging us earnestly for the favor of taking part in the relief of the saints— and this, not as we expected, but they gave themselves first to the Lord and then by the will of God to us (2 Corinthians 8:1-5, ESV).
I used to fret over my inability to do anything to solve the problems of hunger, homelessness, and injustice. It pained me to see needy individuals whose problems were seemingly insurmountable, knowing that I did not have the resources to do more than put a band-aid on their situation.  Not too long ago, our family was in a season of financial reversal, facing foreclosure and shopping with food stamps. Were it not for our church family, caring neighbors, and generous in-laws we would have languished in our hopelessness and been out on the streets. I am convinced the reason we found ourselves on the receiving end of the generosity of others is because we had been faithful and obedient givers in our local church.

Now that we have come through our financial crisis I find myself serving in a church that truly does make a difference in the lives of the needy in our community. The tithes and offerings we give not only keep the lights on and the salaries paid, but actually do make it possible to wage war and win the battle against the social problems of poverty and homelessness in our area.

We don't have to be rich to make a difference in this world. As we work together, God will supply not only our needs but also the needs of those whose problems are far greater than our limited resources. "God is able to make all grace abound toward you, that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may have an abundance for every good work" (2 Corinthians 9:8, NKJV). Rather than withhold our giving because we feel it would be inadequate to meet the need, we should give joyfully knowing that in the end every little bit helps. If we in the Church do not give obediently and generously, then what hope is there for the world?

Copyright © 2017 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Monday, July 31, 2017

The Death of Discontent

"I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.  I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:11-13, NIV).

Recently, after a much-needed rain brought relief from the oppressive heat of summer, I found myself surprisingly agitated by the fact that I was not out lying on a beach somewhere enjoying the cool breeze, and irritated by every little thing my husband said or did. Never mind that I had pleasant weather in which to run errands or a quiet porch where I could sit and read for a few minutes. Despite all the blessings that I was thankful for, I was cranky and couldn't quite figure out why.

Out of boredom and longing for a little more excitement in life, I turned to Facebook to see what my friends were up to. It was there that I discovered the source of my discontent -- in the posts about their new cars, vacations, and adventures. It was in looking at countless pictures of happy couples seemingly without a care in the world. The light went on! The demons of comparison and self-pity had been raining all over my parade for far too long and it was time to pull the plug on discontent. But how?

Just recognizing the source was a beginning. As silly, or as simple, as it sounds, I realized that for me the answer lies in disconnecting myself from social media, re-engaging with my spouse, and counting my blessings, one by one, over and over. It lies in realizing that not having a vacation means I don't have the credit card bill to go along with it, and that driving an old car is far superior to going into debt for a new one. Truth be told -- I gave up sunbathing long ago because of the skin cancer risk. I don't have to drive hours to the ocean to enjoy the water, when there is a beautiful river less than fifteen minutes from home!

My world may not be very large, but my God is -- and His grace and blessings are more than enough for me.

Copyright © 2017 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Friday, July 14, 2017

The Trouble with Having More

"No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money." (Matthew 6:24, NIV)
Lately I have been thinking about life, my blessings, and the dreams that I hold in my heart. The future keeps advancing without skipping a beat and I can hardly keep up.  Summer is half gone, my youngest child has just reached adulthood, and the reality that college will come sooner than we are prepared has me in a state of wondering not only how we will fund her education but also our retirement.  The golden years are fast approaching and before you know it we'll be sleeping toothless while our dentures soak in a vat of Efferdent.

As advertisers and social media steer my gaze toward lavish vacations and material luxuries that cost more than my first house, I realize that I will never keep up with the Joneses.  Thing is -- I'm not sure I even want to.  A lifetime of acquiring things, especially those I could not afford at the time, has resulted in a mountain of debt we are still paying off -- debt we should never have taken on for things that failed to satisfy our deepest longings.  The trouble with having more -- at least for me -- is that it often results in more worry, not less, and greater poverty instead of more wealth.  Don't you find that a bit odd?

The Bible tells us that it is more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 20:35), and I am finally embracing that truth and the belief that we can never outgive God. I am learning to loosen my grip on material blessings rather than allow them to possess me. I never cease to be amazed at how much joy and blessing I receive when I open my hands and my wallet to those in need, or to causes that matter to me.

In the past three years, since our move to Virginia, we have learned to live modestly and find contentment in a simpler lifestyle. I drive a 21-year-old station wagon with no car note but a whole lot of character. Recently, as I contemplated moving back to Tennessee with my daughter and the expense that would be involved, I decided that even if we didn't move I would still need to leave the job I love and take a better-paying job in order to pay for college, a reliable used car for my daughter, and save for retirement.  But as I contemplated the trade-offs and the justification for leaving my job in ministry in order to improve our financial position, God began to show me that it really isn't up to me -- it is up to Him to provide all we need.

The temptation to leave my job in search of a better-paying corporate position -- though my motives are justifiable -- has been strong.  But the conviction that my God is able to do immeasurably more than I can ask or imagine, and that He has chosen me to serve where I am in this season of my life, is even stronger.  I cannot improve on God's best for me, and I honestly believe that if I were to leave in search of greener pastures I would experience disappointment, stress, and discontent, despite a bigger paycheck and a benefits package.

For the first time in many years I am content and at peace with my decision to continue serving God where He has planted me.  We continue to make financial progress, and I know that eventually we will be debt-free.  In the meantime our children have learned valuable lessons as a result of our costly mistakes, and have learned to save and live within their means at a much younger age than we ever did. Trust is my choice, and faithfulness to provide for us is God's promise.  I have no doubt that as I continue to seek first His will and righteousness, all these things (our needs and even some wants) will be given to us as well (Matthew 6:33).

Copyright © 2017  by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Thursday, June 22, 2017

The Sin of Comparison

They say confession is good for the soul, but lately I feel that's all I do.  Whether I am confessing my frustration on the job or my envy of what others have, I find that a negative attitude is more likely to occur when I compare myself with others. Pride and envy arrive as uninvited guests to my pity party and stay as long as I allow them to. Fortunately, though, I have learned to disarm them by counting my blessings and thanking God for his favor and provision.

Pride is an ugly thing and comparison is the manifestation of a prideful heart.  I am reminded of the parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector in Luke 18:9-14. Sadly I am prone to act more like the Pharisee when it comes to my attitude toward others. Who am I to judge? But aren't we all guilty of comparing ourselves with and judging others from time to time?  That doesn't make it right.

The happiest people I know are those who have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. (See Philippians 4:11-13.)  When I remember to trust the God who knows me best, loves me most, and gives me all I need, then I am content. But when I begin comparing myself to others, judging them against my standards rather than his love for them, that's when I get into trouble.

What if instead of comparing ourselves with others, we begin praying for and treating them as we'd have them do for us? At the end of the day it doesn't matter what others have or who they are, but rather who we all are in Christ.

Copyright © 2017 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Thursday, June 8, 2017

The Wonder of Waiting

If you are like me, you have probably done a whole lot of waiting in life--waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right to come along, waiting for a big fat check in the mail, or waiting for a dream job that you not only love but that actually pays the bills and leaves you enough surplus for a rainy day. Perhaps you are waiting for the sun to come out and chase away the clouds of despair over a wayward child, a broken heart, or an empty chair formerly occupied by a loved one.

Waiting is one of the most difficult things we will do in life, even if we are women and men of faith. But if we learn to master the art of waiting -- of waiting on God, seeking His will above our own, and resting in His plans and purpose for our lives -- we will look back and see that whatever we had hoped for was certainly worth the wait. You see, God has a way of doing some pretty wonderful things when we wait on Him to work out things in our behalf. That is not to say that we are to just sit and wait -- sometimes we need to step out in faith and actively participate in what He is doing. But I have learned that when a situation does not resolve itself the way I think it should it is best to step back, pray, and give God permission to do His will, even if it means I don't get my own way.

Lately I have been praying about employment and the possibility of relocating to another city. I have mailed resumes, networked with friends and potential employers, and made my list of pros and cons. At no time have I felt apprehensive that moving would be wrong, but neither has God opened doors to indicate that moving would be the right thing to do. Rather He has opened our hearts -- my daughter's and mine -- and granted us wisdom to consider what is best in the long run and the impact a move would have on our family, our church, and our financial well-being. I may not have yet received a job offer, but I have peace knowing that we are where God wants us to be and that in His time, He will provide the job I am meant to have.

God has never failed to give me His best when I have surrendered my plans and desires to His perfect will. Sometimes God has allowed me to fail miserably, fall flat on my face, suffer a broken heart, and experience financial reversal. But God has also been faithful to pick me up, love me in spite of my foolish ways, supply all my needs, and do immeasurably more than I could ask or imagine.

God has surrendered me with visible reminders that He always has my best interests at heart and that He will give me His very best if I wait patiently for Him to work all things together for my good. My husband, children, current job, and even my sweet cat are proof of that!

Waiting for God to do wonders,
Dee Dee

Copyright © 2017 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Sunday, April 30, 2017

Curing Mrs. Cranky

Ever have one of those days when you are cranky -- miserably cranky?  A day when nothing makes you happy... not worship, or a leisurely walk on a beautiful breezy morning, or even a nap?  Today has been one of those days for me and nothing -- NOTHING -- has helped. Usually when my attitude turns sour I can turn on a little praise music and enter into a litany of thanksgiving for all the blessings I DO have.  But today that hasn't cured my crankiness.

Scripture tells us that "godliness with contentment is great gain" (1 Timothy 6:6, NIV). I have a daily quiet time, attend weekly worship, give generously, and do all I can to walk in obedience to God's word.  Though not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, I do strive to live a godly life. But that's only half the equation.  What about contentment?

Paul, though persecuted, imprisoned, and subject to all manner of suffering, seems to have mastered contentment.  "I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.  I can do all this through him who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:12-13). If I am a surrendered believer yet still struggle with contentment -- or at least with being cranky on occasion -- does that make me less a Christian?

When I am cranky I want to isolate myself from those around me because I know that nothing positive is going to come out of my mouth.  Every word will be nagging and nit-picky. The tension becomes more than I can bear. Sometimes my attitude, if it is driven by fatigue, can be greatly helped with a nap and a re-boot of my day.  But when it can't....

What even makes us cranky in the first place?  What causes us to complain and criticize when most of us are blessed beyond measure?  Perhaps these verses from James 4:1-3 may shed a little light: "What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.  When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures."  Hmmm.

Lately I have been praying big prayers, looking to God for provision and big answers, and wondering why he has been silent. I have had a running conversation with him about his will over mine, and with myself about the possibility that the two might be in conflict. Lord, I hope my prayer is in line with your will.  I feel caught somewhere between faith and unbelief -- between dreaming of what could be and the reality that the present might be all there is for now.  Here's the bottom line:  if my prayers are in line with God's will, then no amount of fretting will usher in his answer and provision before the appointed time.

Jesus knows that stressing over the details of life can make us all a little cranky at times, and mercifully he forgives us when we allow our preoccupation with worldly cares to steal our joy. In Matthew 6:33-34, he gently reminds us to "seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."

If there is one thing I have learned, God truly is able to handle the details of our lives with little help from us. He is working behind the scenes in ways we cannot see, making a way for his will to be accomplished, even when we are not sure what his perfect plan is.  He wants to bless his children, even if that means his "no" is our greater "yes."  The question is, do we really trust him to do what is best for us?

Copyright © 2017 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Friday, February 24, 2017

Not My Own

Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore glorify God with your body.  (1 Corinthians 6:19-20, Bereans Study Bible)

It has been a beautiful spring day in my neighborhood, a perfect Friday to cap off a busy work week. Many thoughts are running through my mind as I write this -- the physical I had yesterday, a closed door, financial needs that I'm confident God is going to supply, the lack of time I have to write and maintain two blogs, the joy of seeing trees and flowers in bloom at the end of a dreary, dark winter. 

How thankful I am to be alive! How grateful I am to have a reason -- several, actually -- to get out of bed each day.  To work at a job I love, watch my children grow into responsible adults, and to have the love of one man for over thirty years are blessings I do not take for granted. I have had many jobs I did not love, have survived the challenging years of raising teens, and have had my heart broken by "could have beens." God has been faithful in the good times and the bad.

I learned a long time ago that life, as hard as it may be at times, is much better lived on God's terms than on mine. A life surrendered to His will is a far greater adventure than I could ever have imagined. 

I am not my own. My possessions, my health, my job, my children, and my spouse are not my own. God reserves the right to rearrange the life I love any way He chooses, at any time. Surrendered to Him, I am fearless. Trusting in Him, I am triumphant. Living each day to the fullest and for His glory are my highest aspirations.  

To be fully His rather than to be my own is a joy, not a burden, and I wouldn't have it any other way!

Copyright © 2016 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Thursday, February 2, 2017

Why I Gave Up Cable TV

"Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is" (Ephesians 5:15-17, ESV).
People already think I'm weird because I went vegan in 2016, but even stranger perhaps is my decision to give up cable TV, or at least most of the channels our family has enjoyed these past three years. Not that there is anything wrong with watching television -- I am simply not disciplined enough to step away from it and give my attention to more beneficial activities and interests.  I did subscribe to a basic programming package that will give us network and public broadcasting channels. After all I do need to know what tomorrow's weather will be and the news that affects my family. But the cost is exorbitant, the value limited, and my time too precious to be spent on something of so little benefit.

But why did I really downgrade my cable subscription?  Because I am convinced that God has bigger plans for me than to mindlessly watch hours of sappy love stories, and because the hard-earned money he has entrusted to our family can be better invested in doing his will and enriching the lives of others.

It is hard to hear God's voice when the TV is on all the time. It is easy to let TV become an excuse to put off exercise or that important project that needs my attention. TV has stolen too much from me -- dreams, inspiration, time, and money.

Is there something that is robbing you of the truly important things, like relationships with family and friends or that special task to which God has called you? TV, social media, and even "good causes" can distract us from the more important things.

"If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth" (Colossians 3:1-2, ESV).

Copyright © 2016 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Thursday, January 26, 2017

This Is a Test...This Is Only a Test

Here I sit, in exactly the same predicament I faced this time last year, wondering how God is going to pull off the miracle I need. It's true, you know. History does have a uncanny way of repeating itself. Question is, as I go through this test will I have the patience to endure it and better yet, keep in mind that God has come through so many times before?  Or will I do what I am so prone to do -- take charge and try to come up with the solution all by myself? That seldom turns out well for me.

Life is full of tests. Tests that make us squirm and steal our joy. What if in the heat of the furnace we could remember, "This is a test.  This is only a test"?

I don't know how God is going to work this out. I only have to know that He is. I don't have to do anything but pray, wait, and trust him -- to guide me, to open and close doors, and to supply my every need according to his glorious riches (Philippians 4:19). He is able to do immeasurably more than I can ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20).  "He knows the way that I take, and when he has tested me I shall come forth as gold" (Job 23:10).

What impossible problem are you facing today? Do you have the faith to take God at his word and to believe in what he has promised to do for you?

Even for the most seasoned believer it can be hard -- so very hard -- to surrender ourselves to God's unseen plan and trust him with the outcome. But with God, the one who works all things together for the good of those who love him and are called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28), nothing is impossible.

Copyright © 2016 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.

Saturday, January 14, 2017

Is God's Will a Cop-Out?

I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. -- Romans 12:1-2, ESV
Recently someone asked me to pray for God's will in a particular matter. It was a situation that could easily be changed by a willful decision to make different choices that could be beneficial. As I pondered a response I wondered just how often we use "God's will" as a cop-out rather than simply walking in obedience to it, doing what His Word tells us and experiencing the blessings that come as a result of our obedience.

Many times I have used "God's will" to justify purchases of things I didn't really need, resulting in debt, or actions that were premature and clearly outside of His perfect will for my life.

If I know that God's will is for me is to be in good health (3 John 2) and to treat my body as the temple of His Holy Spirit (1 Cor. 6:19-20), I am not going to pray for His will to make that happen. I am going to pray for His conviction and strength to resist the foods I know to be harmful to my body and to eat the foods that will nourish it. I am going to exercise my fearfully and wonderfully made body (Psalm 139:14) rather than spend countless hours sitting behind a computer or in front of a TV.

Sometimes God's will depends on our willingness to act upon His will. It is not enough to daily surrender our lives to His will, we also need to choose to walk in obedience to it.

There will be times when it is appropriate to pray for God's will, such as when we are faced with circumstances over which we have no control or critical decisions that must be made. For instance, knowing God's will is that "none should perish" (2 Peter 3:9) without a saving knowledge of His Son, we should pray for God's will and salvation in the lives of our unsaved friends and loved ones. When others are faced with chronic diseases or terminal illness we need to pray for God's healing and His will for their lives. But we need to realize that when it comes to those things we can control and know to be God's will our prayer should be for wisdom, strength, and conviction to do His will.

Copyright © 2017 by Dee Dee Wike. All rights reserved.