"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows." -- 2 Corinthians 1:3-5
The older I get the more certain I am of one thing: sometimes life just doesn't make sense. As hard as we try to live responsibly, love unconditionally, and conduct ourselves ethically, bad things still happen to good people. We make mistakes, suffer tragic loss, and often fail miserably in our efforts to be successful in our careers and in our relationships with others. With the odds seemingly stacked even against the good guys, how can any of us live without regret?
I personally have known good people who have suffered undeserved and devastating loss. Despite living for God and walking in obedience to him, they have encountered unimaginable tragedy. Yet they have somehow managed to move past their grief and go on living and loving, changed by their circumstances but not crippled. They have endured seemingly endless seasons of sorrow, asked all the "why, me?" questions, and come away with very few answers, yet they have continued to trust in the very God who allowed their loss. Many have even said, "If I had it to do all over again, I would in a heartbeat, because God has taught me so much and drawn me closer to him."
Perhaps you are so wounded by loss that you have become bitter and cannot even utter God's name. He understands because he himself suffered indescribable loss when his only son, Jesus, died on the cross to save us from our sins. Yet God's love for us is so pure that there is no room for regret. He continues to pour out his love on undeserving sinners like us, even though he knows that some will reject him.
The only way we are able to face our sorrow and live without regret is by following God's example of unrelenting love and sacrifice. If we will turn away from our bitterness and draw closer to God, he will draw near to us. If we will look for his purpose in our pain, he will use what we have suffered to bring comfort to others. That is when true healing will take place.